When parents act like kids, their kids have to expedite in growing up. I am one good example. I don't remember I ever enjoy one second of childhood. I was always being forced to handle circumstances exceeding my ability. Well, I survive! How?
Well, when problem comes up, I deal with it all by myself. Never once I discuss with family or friends when I was a kid. Simply because friends are not trustworthy and family is never available for me. I stay calm and think through every possible situation. Eventually, I figure (1) almost all problems can be solved by money and (2) even there is not a solution, the problem will go with the time. Then, it is really unnecessary to consult others.
Now that you know how I become such a loner. No matter at work place or in relationship, I really don't see the point of letting other participate in my decision. Because I really believe I can live without anyone. Well, as long as I have money in my pocket.
But recently, I have some different thought. Sharing is fun. Discussion is interesting and stimulating. Accepting the help of others is blessing. Simply hanging out is comfy. I believe Moses was so glad to see his father-in-law for he had a right person to share and to talk with. Well, maybe, I have changed. Or maybe, the other me has awaken.
Even Moses couldn't finish the task alone. He needed Arron to speak for him. Joshua to lead the army. Arron and Hur to hold his hand when praying on the hill. Now his father-in-law to remind him of management of Israel. He couldn't do everything himself. But to decentralize authority to talented and honest people. He must trust others, hands off and let others participate.
When there is a problem, many voices appear. Not all voices we have to listen to. Only listen to the one God uses, the one who loves God and praise him, the one with experience, the one with love as intention. And most importantly, the one who direct you to go back to bible. This is very helpful to a self-centered person like me. Exodus18
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